Learning To Cope With Childhood Trauma

Better Yourself: Learn To Cope

“Cope” was a fairly popular right-wing term back in the day. Its use is dying off, but it’s still around. Usually said to insult or to mock, its slang form generally means someone who has created a psychological defence using a more mainstream belief instead of addressing a harsh truth.

I prefer the traditional definition of cope, which is:

To contend with difficulties and act to overcome them:
to struggle or deal, especially on fairly even terms or with some degree of success

Given that definition, many people truly do need to cope. More importantly, they need to learn how to cope.

Vox Day recently had a good article on this subject. In it, he said the following:

One of the things I’ve found fascinating about online culture is the way that damaged people not only don’t hesitate to expose their psychological scars to complete strangers, but more often than not, are completely unaware that they are doing so. As with the physical martial arts, it is very, very difficult to attempt a psychological attack on someone else without opening up and exposing your own psychology to them.
Hence my amusement when a self-appointed critic calls me “fat” or an “incel”, asserts that I’m insecure about my intelligence, or claims that Spacebunny doesn’t exist; the less an attack is focused on observable attributes or behaviors, the more likely it is that the attacker is engaging in psychological projection and revealing their own insecurities.
A psychologically healthy individual will tend to have a response to the image of a pretty cheerleader kissing her football-playing boyfriend that ranges from the positive to the indifferent. But a psychologically unhealthy individual will be readily traumatized by the mere sight of that which is good, that which is beautiful, or that which is true.
So, if you find yourself tending to react with negativity towards that which is positive, it would probably be a good idea to contemplate why that is, and what youthful trauma is troubling you.

Most of the deranged nutcases—on both the left and the Right—haven’t coped with their childhood issues. Whether these issues transpired in infancy, youth, or the teenage years is irrelevant. It continues to harm them to this day.

This is very evident in online comment sections. There are some comments I have to shift through on this website where the projection bleeds through my computer screen.

Content creators (and those that read comments frequently) see this projection appear often. It can come in many forms, some of my favorites include: “You won’t do anything” (translated: they aren’t doing anything), “you can’t figure this out/fix anything” (translated: they can’t figure this out or fix anything), “there is no hope” (translated: they have no hope), and so on. The list is truly endless.

Once you have a bit of a trained eye, it’s impossible to not immediately catch these.

Vox is right about a lot in this short article. The two bold pieces especially. There are a lot of people who have a lot of trauma to deal with. You aren’t coping if you’re projecting.

If you feel anger when you see something true, beautiful, or good, then you need to learn to cope with whatever inside of you is driving that anger. It is not normal or healthy.

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